Playing Big

“To me, that’s playing “Big” – being more loyal to your dreams than to your fears.”

— Tara Sophia Mohr

 ★  A few years ago, I was in the Virgin Islands, playing trumpet with The Gomorran Social Aid & Pleasure Club. We were on an eleven day tour, having a ton of fun – it was such a great experience. I was doing what I loved, getting paid for it, being fed, swimming every day, and basking in the tropical sun and warm nighttime breezes in late February.

One of the most memorable moments of that trip happened during one of our set breaks. A young boy named D’Andre gets up stage and starts to play our drumset. He’s no more than 5 or 6 years old, yet he’s playing with such energy, enthusiasm, skill and composure that belies his age. Best of all, he is fearless. He isn’t afraid of screwing up, facing disapproval from his parents or other adults. He’s just up there enjoying himself and the drums, doing what he loves to do.

It really can be just as simple as that – ignoring your fears and doing what you want to do. Not being afraid of disapproval or rejection. It’s what Tara Sophia Mohr calls “playing big” – not letting your actions and life direction be governed by fear, but instead being more loyal to your dreams and letting them guide the way.

So the next time you procrastinate doing something that you love or have always wanted to do, take a minute and ask yourself why: Are you afraid of looking silly? Are you afraid it’s petty, childish, or stupid? Are you afraid of being ridiculed or outcast? If the answer is yes, then by all means definitely do it anyway. Don’t let fear get in the way.

What would D’Andre do?


It is all too easy to forget that the civil rights movement happened not too long ago – if not within in our own lifetime, then for sure within our parents’ or grandparents’ lifetime. Yes, we have come a long way from that dark, but not-so-distant past of slavery & unequal rights, but yet there is still much more ground to cover. Unfortunately, racism, discrimination, fear, and hatred still abound in our society today.

We still need to mend as a country and as a society. So let us not forget this:  No matter our race, color, or creed, let us always be kind & compassionate toward one another and remember to treat each other as human beings.

– J

Blackbird © 1968 Lennon/McCartney

"Why should we all use our creative power…? Because there is nothing that makes people so generous, joyful, lively, bold and compassionate, so indifferent to fighting and the accumulation of objects and money." - Brenda Ueland#